Divorce Coaching

7 Things to Contemplate When You’re Considering Divorce

7 Things to Contemplate When You’re Considering Divorce  If you have found this article, you have probably been having thoughts about divorcing your spouse and decided to pair it with some Googling. You have likely heard all sorts of internet opinions. Some will tell you if you’re considering divorce your marriage is over. Some will tell you a bunch of reasons why not to get divorced. Everyone has an opinion. And you know that old saying about opinions. Well here’s one of ours! Opinion: most people think about divorcing their partner at some point in their marriage! But there is a big difference between considering divorce and actually going through with it. At Rockville Psychotherapy and Coaching, we will not tell you what to do. What to do when you’re considering divorce is a decision you will have to make for yourself. The biggest piece of advice we have to give is: do not make this decision lightly! If you are considering divorce, there are many things [...]

2023-03-23T22:19:56-04:00March 22nd, 2023|Divorce Coaching|0 Comments

National Conscious Uncoupling Day: January 21st

First, there’s Christmas or Hannukah. Then there’s New Year’s. Then, there’s tax return season. These are supposed to be times of joy and family, and togetherness. But for many, they are also times of great stress, especially if you are already in a strained marriage. So it makes sense that so many people start thinking about divorce around this time of year.  You likely know people who have had nasty divorces: Court battles, financial disagreements, lots of lawyer involvement, fighting over split-custody agreements…  But divorce does not have to be anywhere near as tough as we often see in some of those extreme, nasty cases. That is why it is important to promote awareness that divorce does not have to involve nasty court battles and disagreements.  January 21st is “National Conscious Uncoupling Day.”  It is meant to promote awareness that divorce does not have to be high-conflict and involve lots of fighting and court battles.   And it makes sense that there would be a day dedicated [...]

2023-03-21T18:51:56-04:00January 16th, 2023|Divorce Coaching|0 Comments

Dating After Divorce: Questions and Answers

You have accepted that you are getting divorced. Now you’re trying to manage life in a completely new reality. You are thinking about dating again after divorce, but a million questions and fears race through your mind. When is the right time to start dating again? How do I make sure I don’t repeat the same mistakes? Will my next relationship last? How do I act on a 1st date? How much do I tell them? Should I be casually dating after divorce? At what point should I tell my kids? How will I tell them? When is it okay to introduce my kids to someone new? There are no simple, definitive answers to these questions. And you know yourself better than anyone else does. We’re not going to kid you–we don’t have all the answers! What we do have is a list of questions that we are used to answering at Rockville Psychotherapy and Coaching. Here are some of the answers we give to those anxiety-provoking [...]

2023-03-21T18:52:10-04:00November 26th, 2022|Divorce Coaching|0 Comments

Struggling With Divorce? You Could Use a Thinking Partner

Sarah was overwhelmed. She had just moved out of the house she shared with Jonathan. Sarah had not lived alone for a long time. She struggled to picture a happy future. Everywhere she turned, there were more things to deal with–and she did not feel emotionally equipped to deal with any of them! How would they split up their belongings? What would happen with the kids? How would she survive this mess? Sarah was starting to realize just how much work it was going to be to live on her own. Between dealing with new bills, following a new parenting schedule, working, and trying to keep track of everything, she felt like she was in over her head. What Sarah really needed was a thinking partner.  What Can a Thinking Partner Do For You? A thinking partner can provide much-needed emotional support during a divorce. They can be an outlet for the frustrations, anger, and sadness that often accompany the various stages of the divorce process.  Thinking [...]

2023-03-21T18:52:19-04:00November 21st, 2022|Divorce Coaching|0 Comments

4 Tips to Get You Through Thanksgiving After Divorce

Turkey day is nearly upon us. For many, this is a happy time spent with family members and old friends. But for those who are recently separated, Thanksgiving can be tough. It can serve as a reminder of a time when you were once a happy family unit.  But making it through Thanksgiving after divorce does not have to be so difficult. Here are some practical tips for how to manage co-parenting, create new memories, and have a positive experience during Thanksgiving after divorce.  1) Create a Co-parenting Plan Ahead of Time Having a co-parenting plan in place ahead of time is crucial. There is no one-size-fits-all parenting style for Thanksgiving after divorce, but here are some suggestions:  Joint Dinners If things with your ex are cordial enough, consider a joint dinner. However, this has to be done carefully. If it will feel like you are walking on eggshells all night, this is not the best move. It might be tempting to wear your brave face, grit your teeth, and [...]

2022-11-26T10:59:30-05:00November 20th, 2022|Divorce Coaching|0 Comments

16 Tips for Starting Your Divorce Recovery Journey

Your divorce process is winding down and coming to an end. It has felt like such a long, painful road. Now you can see the light at the end of the tunnel and wonder--Now what? Isn't it supposed to get easier from here? Why am I still in pain? Now is the time to start thinking about your divorce recovery journey. You have spent so long thinking about the divorce process--with all the planning,  paperwork, and court appearances--that you may have neglected to think about what comes next. Divorce recovery is a process, just like the divorce itself And it will take time, effort, and patience. Just as there are many different types of divorce, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to divorce recovery. 16 tips to get you started on your divorce recovery journey: (1) Give yourself permission to feel your feelings Divorce is a loss, plain and simple. You are likely feeling a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, anxiety, relief, and confusion. It is important to [...]

2022-11-22T16:03:21-05:00November 12th, 2022|Divorce Coaching|0 Comments

What is a Divorce Coach? 7 Ways a Divorce Coach Can Help

You toss and turn, unable to sleep, worrying about what your future will look like. Whether you are thinking about divorce, coping with divorce, or struggling with the transition, the stress, fear, and anxiety are relentless. Overwhelmed is an understatement. In the midst of your googling, you stumble across this page, asking yourself, “what is a divorce coach?” Among many, this is yet another question you are asking yourself. What happens once I sign the divorce papers? Will I lose my kids? Do I need to get a lawyer? What if my spouse doesn’t want to divorce? How will I tell my kids? What will I lose? How will my kids be impacted? How will I manage financially? How will I successfully co-parent? What will life after divorce look like? If these questions keep you up at night, we know how you feel! Whether you are considering, going through, or coping with divorce, it can often feel as if you don’t know where to turn, especially if the divorce [...]

2023-01-31T20:28:17-05:00November 12th, 2022|Divorce Coaching|0 Comments

Navigating the Divorce Transition: What’s in Your Suitcase?

You have decided that divorce is for the best. Now you are trying to survive as you navigate the choppy waters of the divorce transition. You are scared, confused, struggling. You can’t quite picture the idea of stepping ashore. You feel weighed down by worry and doubt. Perhaps this is because you have an overstuffed suitcase. In this article, I am going to discuss the difficulties that arise during your divorce transition journey–through an analogy I call the “suitcase metaphor.” It tells a story about what is stopping you from being your best self–and how a divorce coach can help you to achieve your goals. The hope I have for my readers is that by the time you have finished reading you will walk away with some valuable ideas for how to navigate the turbulent water of your divorce transition journey. What's in Your Suitcase? A metaphor I love here is the suitcase analogy. Working as an educator for the last 30 years, I have frequently had my students [...]

2022-11-22T16:03:46-05:00November 12th, 2022|Divorce Coaching|0 Comments
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